Time has passed. I began getting into the holidays and then Passover took up much of my time and then my husband had surgery. So I apologize for not writing sooner
However I can say that communication with my son is better! The therapy he goes to, a combination of art, music, sport and talking in a group, has been helping. We consult with the staff, ( not during holidays), on a regular basis, and they have offered tips on how to help our son in the home setting. What I really like are the tips.
-To be a good listener
-To say I understand something is upsetting him, would he like to talk about it, when he is upset, instead of saying "what's wrong now?"
- To expect that not every day, he will want to talk with me, or us, or anyone.
-To praise him for any little thing he may do around the house or with his sister, but not to overdo it ( He dislikes effusive praise).